Interview

DYLAN LEARY, HOST:

Debbie is a mother of two. She grew up in a small town called Dedham, with her mother, father, and her older brother. She went to a community college and eventually met her husband, and had her sons, Daniel and Dylan....So Debbie, why did you want to have kids?

DEBBIE:

Well, I have always loved kids, I used to babysit them when I was younger.

DYLAN:

What exactly did you like about them?

DEBBIE:

I liked the interaction with them, just how they were always playful and the simplest things kept them happy.

DYLAN:

Anything else motivate you to have kids?

DEBBIE:

Yes, I always thought it would be interesting to see....to see a part of me and their dad.

DYLAN:

So the idea of family is very important to you, I presume?

DEBBIE:

Very, I wanted to pass down the value to them too, to show our family's history.

DYLAN:

How exactly did you make the choices for them growing up, such as where?

DEBBIE:

Well, a lot of it came from personal experience. I grew up in a small town and so did their father so that is how we chose the place of Mansfield.

DYLAN:

How about other choices, such as the school?

DEBBIE:

Well, other than liking this town, we realized the school system here was really good, which was a bonus.

DYLAN:

Was it difficult to choose between a private school or a public school?

DEBBIE:

Not really, personally I went to a private school, but I wanted my children to go to a public school for the sense of community.

DYLAN:

So obviously, having children is difficult at times. Fights happen and cause a lot of stress; how did you deal with those?

DEBBIE:

Well I depended on friends and family a lot. I used them when I didn't know where else to go, but another key part was following my faith.

DYLAN:

Would you also go onto personal experiences?

DEBBIE:

Yes I would, it would help me relate to their position a lot, but not help me find the answer.

DYLAN:

With your children, did you have to give anything up, like friends?

DEBBIE:

I didn't give up too much on the side of friends. I'm still in contact with most of my friends from when I grew up, and having children made me meet new ones.

DYLAN:

How about time, do you lose a lot of it?

DEBBIE:

I wouldn't call it so much as losing it, it was more of a choice to share my time with them.

DYLAN:

How about the price? Kids are pretty expensive as we all know.

DEBBIE:

Yes they take up a lot of the money, which means you might not get that brand new car you wanted, or get to go out to dinner as much, but that wasn't as important as having kids to me.

DYLAN:

Did this experience change you as a person all together?

DEBBIE:

I feel as if having kids made me a stronger person, more patient too. It also helped me realize that you never knew you could love so much, until you had a child.

DYLAN:

Going back over the years, and reflecting, would you change anything?

DEBBIE:

One of the things I would change is I would have more patience.

DYLAN:

Why is that?

DEBBIE:

So, that way I could enjoy every moment as it came. Kids grow up so fast and you want to remember every moment you spent with them. You want to remember the simple things that made them happy and what brought you closer.

DYLAN:

That wraps up my questions for tonight Thank you for your input, it really helps on our perspective of love.

DEBBIE:

Thanks for letting me be a part.